The SF Pride Bay Area m/m Spanking Party

The Folsom Street Community Center
1286 Folsom Street
San Francisco, CA 94103

(easy access via transit or driving! > see details below

Join us on for our SF Pride BAMMS party on Saturday June 27th for sizzling hot fun and red bottoms at The Folsom Street Community Center (home of the world famous Folsom Street Fair!) where you can safely explore your spanking interests/fantasies from real discipline and traditional corporal punishment, to classic role-plays and dom/sub power exchanges.

WHAT TO EXPECT

You'll first walk down the entry hallway and check-in at the front desk, with an area to store belongings (free), plentiful food/refreshments and friendly 'meet & greet' socializing spots located on the first floor behind the front desk

The main, large play space is also on the first floor, past partitions at the rear of the socializing/refreshments area, and features spank benches, couches and other suitable furniture, and has a mixture of more public and more private areas

Upstairs there are more cozy and semi-private playspace nooks, including a designated 'Lavender Zone' where more sexual activity is allowed [see House Rules]

There are also three bathrooms, including an ADA bathroom on the first floor

The party is generally intended for 18+ men/boys/male-presenting/identifying people who are into spanking, of any experience level, ethnicity, sexuality or background, including guys completely new to spanking who just want to check it out. Unlike some events, we have a quite friendly community and even if it's your first time, you should hopefully feel welcomed and included

The Folsom Street Community Center is a well-known kink space located in the SOMA area of SF, just a few blocks from BART and MUNI, and with numerous side streets nearby with non-metered parking



WHAT TO BRING & WEAR

Feel free to bring paddles, belts, straps, tawses, canes, hairbrushes or anything else you might want to use to nicely redden a boy's bottom. Some might bring bags of implements, others just need a lap and the palm of their hand (hand spanking is the most common form at our events)

Wear whatever feels comfortable to you. Most probably will be in casual street clothes


HOUSE RULES

* Consent is always required - you must ask before touching anyone or their equipment, and consent can be withdrawn at any time (CNC can be mutually agreed upon with clear boundaries within negotiated scenes and can always be withdrawn). Consent for one activity also does not imply consent for other activities without explicit discussion

* The house 'safe word' is "RED LIGHT!", which means activity must stop immediately and can only proceed again with consent - please see a House Monitor with any concerns

* Be respectful, mindful and inclusive to help create a safe and welcoming space for everyone; there will be especially zero tolerance for any transphobia or racism

* Follow proper kink etiquette: do not talk loudly near, walk closely through or otherwise disturb active play, and also do not too closely/'weirdly' voyeur scenes without consent

* Do not engage with anyone wearing a red wristband (let them approach you)

* No blood (ex: over use of canes) or extreme play - if in doubt, ask a House Monitor

* Touching or holding of intimate areas is okay with consent in all the playspaces, but no penetrative sex or solo jerking anywhere please, and no oral play, fast stroking, bodily fluids, or lube outside of the designated "Lavender Zone" on the second floor

* Leave spaces as you find them, do not move furniture (regular chairs and wooden stools are okay to move) and do not hog desirable spaces (ex: upstairs back nooks/spank benches) for excessive periods of time so that others can use the spaces too

* No videos or auto-recording allowed anywhere, no photos in the play spaces and phones should generally not be out in play spaces at all; even outside of the play spaces, absolutely no photos without the clear and explicit consent of all parties

* No alcohol, visible intoxication, smoking, fire, firearms, or any illegal drugs or activity

* No food or drinks outside of the front food/socializing area (none in the play spaces)

* We reserve the right to deny entry or remove/ban anyone



LAVENDER ZONE

The party's focus is on spanking and we know it's important to many of our regular attendees to keep it that way, and certainly not have our events ever feel like just another SF sex party. That said, we know from polling our community that some attendees also enjoy having the option for some sexual activity along with spanking, and we want to provide space for people to enjoy those additions to their spanking play

All sexual activity other than penetrative sex and solo jerking/masturbation (which can result in a bunch of voyeurs watching a scene while self-pleasuring and really change the vibe of a space) is allowed in our designated 'LAVENDER ZONE' located on part of the second floor play space

Examples could be simply including some sexual pleasuring while giving a spanking, or ways of showing gratitude or providing a 'happy ending' after a good spanking

Additionally, touching or holding intimate areas is allowed, with consent, in any of the play spaces



HOUSE MONITORS

Please see the event host Damien or one of the House Monitors wearing the ORANGE WRISTBANDS if you have any concerns, such as House Rule violations. Providing a consensual, safe environment is essential for all the amazing fun we have at these parties!

Luckily we have a quite respectful community and thus far have had very few issues at any of our events. Everyone can help us keep it that way by being on the lookout for one another and letting monitors know if you see anything that looks off



FOR BEGINNERS

This will also be a safe space for those with no or little experience who are still figuring out their spanking curiosity or finally wanting to possibly explore a long-held fantasy

It's totally fine to just watch without participating, or simply just stay in the front rooms and meet, chat and ask questions of other like-minded spanking enthusiasts. Also the host Damien or other House Monitors are happy to provide a tour and, if desired, attempt to match you with the type of person you're interested in playing with

We'll also even have RED WRISTBANDS available for any new or shy people who'd like to not be approached by others, so they can only decide themselves who they want to engage with

Inversely, if you're new and wanting to have an easy time meeting people, we'll also have GREEN WRISTBANDS to let people know you'd like for others to come up and introduce themselves so you can more quickly get to know people. The community we've been building is generally quite friendly and welcoming



PRE-PLAY SAMPLE QUESTIONS

We strongly encourage everyone to discuss their limits, preferences and desires clearly with any potential play partner before playing. Particularly if you a newer to spanking play, here are some possible sample questions you might consider:

- What is your level of experience with this type of play?
- What kind of spanking are you looking for (ex: dom/sub, roleplay, real discipline, etc) and within those, what are you ideally looking for?
- What are limits/boundaries that you don't want crossed?
- Are there places you'd like to be touched, or not touched? Do you want any sexual aspects?
- Are there safewords or signals you'd like to use beyond just the House Safe Word 'Red Light'? (ex: 'Yellow Light' could mean to pause or back off, but not to stop entirely, as 'Red Light' requires)
- What is your desired level of dress (bare vs. clothed)?
- Are you okay with possibly leaving marks/bruises, and where?
- What is your pain tolerance like generally?
- What would you like to be called? (ex: name/boy/daddy/sir)
- Are there positions and/or implements you like, or dislike?
- How do you want to feel? How will your play partner know if you're having a good time?
- Do you want aftercare when the spanking is over?


ENTRY DETAILS

Everyone entering must be 18+ with valid ID, agree to the House Rules and sign a waiver

Standard entrance fee is $40, via CASH (preferred) or Cash App

You can also pay in advance on Cash App via $SFMMSP, listing your name and age, with verification at the door

- Accessibility discounts -

As economic means usually rises with age (and also to help support younger guys wanting to explore spanking interests) the following discounts will be available:

- 25 AND UNDER: Full discount (FREE)

- UNDER 30: 75% discount ($10)

- UNDER 40: 50% discount ($20)

- UNDER 50: 25% discount ($30)

- Those eligible can of course opt to waive all or part of discounts to help cover venue rental/party costs if desired, and likewise anyone can donate extra towards helping keep these parties going

We also will have name tags, so people have the option to share a name, position, hometown, etc.


GETTING THERE

Easy access via transit or car!

The Folsom Street Center is a short walk (about 3 blocks) from the Civic Center BART and MUNI stops. It is also located on the 12 bus line and near several others

If you prefer to drive to the venue, there are several side streets within a 1/2 block (Clementina, Dore, and Ringold probably in that order) with non-metered parking and there should be good availability on a Saturday afternoon

Alternatively, one could park at a BART station and take BART into the city (which is easy and safe if you haven't used the subway before) - best options with plenty of parking are probably West Oakland if coming from the east, or Daly City if coming from the south

The venue exterior is all black, with a silver door, pink building number and pointy roof, and will have an event sign posted on the door



SPREAD THE WORD

After having monthly m/m spanking parties in SF for decades, there'd been a scarcity in the bay area since the SF Men's spanking parties ended during the pandemic

This re-launched party has been filling that gap, as a new event under new management, including some updated approaches and better inclusivity

Our six parties since last year's Pride have all gone very well and seem to keep just getting better each time. To keep this going though, please come out and tell your spanko friends so we can keep holding regular spanking parties again! As long as the events can break even, we'll aim to continue organizing them



CONTACT

Contact Damien at [email protected] for any questions



RSVP BELOW (OPTIONAL)

Our main event page is on Whappz, but if you aren't on that app - or better yet just are okay helping us get a better sense of our community - RSVPing below is very much appreciated and will help us develop our email list, have an estimate for refreshments and also just get to know who's coming to the party

Responses are optional and will of course be held in strict confidence
https://forms.gle/4UyodhqYEkL1C4To9