How to Have Difficult Conversations: A Workshop with Daniel Ellenberg

There is both a science and an art to having conversations with impact. This workshop is an overview of the mind and skill sets that inspire and catalyze successful, essential conversations. It includes a framework for utilizing discoveries from neuroscience, communication theories, and various psychologies—including positive, cognitive, evolutionary, and existential. Become more adept in navigating conversations by gaining a deeper understanding of the challenges people face (including yourself) in having mindful, compassionate conversations. The principles and practices we explore are applicable to personal relationships as well.
Some of the skills and tools taught in this workshop:


An approach for understanding the common opportunities and impediments to meaningful conversations


Recognizing and addressing the hidden dynamics and issues people have behind their upsets


The importance of interpersonal courage along with how to focus on and develop it more


Why clarifying intention and staying on purpose is so critical to successful conversational outcomes


The factors that increase the probability of having the other person receive your message positively


Ways to recognize and identify emotional reactivity (defensiveness) as the core obstacle to successful conversations


Awareness of the hidden assumptions that could derail an essential conversation


Practices to diminish reactivity and inspire positive participation




Daniel Ellenberg, PhD is a leadership coach, organizational trainer, executive advisor and licensed therapist. He is a principle in Rewire Leadership Institute and Relationships That Work. He leads Strength with Heart men's groups and seminars and is a board member of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and CIIS. He co-created and delivered a resilience training program for several NASA space centers and is the co-author of Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust, and True Partnership, a contributor to The Communication Path and Mastering the Art of Succes.s He is a lead researcher in exploring the role of interpersonal courage in the workplace.
He leads both professional and personal workshops that focus on building resilience, overcoming misunderstandings, developing self-compassion, and helping men liberate themselves from constrictive sex roles. Daniel helps people realize that their greatest assets lay in their own curiosity, authenticity, and willingness to embrace change. He specializes in helping leaders both craft and deliver their messages to individuals, teams, and boards, and throughout the entire organization. He helps leaders understand the critical success factors that turn assumptions, misunderstandings, and conflicts into clear, precise, and productive conversations.