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This week, local stations started airing television spots that featured an elderly couple talking about their lesbian daughter and the way Proposition 8 is seeking to take away her right to marriage. Immediately after this spot aired on TV, a local newswoman, in a preview of the evening news coverage and speaking in reference to the new commercial, teased that the fight for marriage equality has finally gotten personal. I thought to myself, “What rock has she been sleeping under?”

This fight has been nothing but personal from the start. How can anything that involves the lives of two people be anything but personal? That it took some people so long to realize it, and that it took a 30 second television ad featuring an elderly white couple to help some people realize it is an embarrassment to our culture. It speaks to how invisible our community still is to much of the population. But on the other hand, I guess it also speaks to the success of the television spot.

It may be hard to believe, especially when it’s suggested that almost everybody has a homosexual family member, but perhaps it really does take the faces of two non-threatening white people to demonstrate to the population at large that this fight is not about burly, flannel clad dykes or mesh wearing, meth dealing fags. It’s about real people, everyday Americans just like you and me.

That’s not to say that said dykes and fags aren’t real people, but you know what I mean. In seeking to protect the legitimacy of marriage, supporters of Proposition 8 have to believe that they are safeguarding their “white” from our “black.” But it shouldn’t take a grandma and grandpa to point out the fact that this so called “Same Sex Marriage Ban,” which offers to protect the rights of heterosexuals to marry, is ridiculous. Their right to marry has never been taken away; it was never even in doubt. You don’t even need to look any further than the actual verbiage itself to find out how shaky the ground is on which this proposition stands.

Proposition 8, as it will appear on the November 2008 ballot, will read as the “Eliminates Right of Same-Sex Couples To Marry Act.” Read that again. “Eliminates Right of Same-Sex Couples To Marry Act.” The supporters of this act profess to take away a right that is already incontrovertibly ours. How some people can presume to actually take away the rights of others is to me, worse than discrimination. I mean, it’s one thing to deny people rights, but to actually take them away is another thing entirely. It’s not only a giant leap backwards. It’s hate pure and simple. Ironic, given that its aim is to uphold love and affection. Maybe I missed a memo somewhere, but I didn’t know that those feelings were exclusive to heterosexuals.

This past weekend, I witnessed first hand everything that Proposition 8 will eliminate. Never having been to a same-sex wedding, I thought it was lucky to finally experience one. I say lucky because it was a beautiful wedding, but even more than that I felt lucky because of the fact that these ceremonies, in about 3 month’s time, could very well be unlawful. And to make love illegal would only be a move towards legitimizing, legalizing and sanctioning hate.